Yoga for a First Date?
Jenifer Garam suggests it might be a good idea.
It’s inexpensive, more interesting than going to a movie, yoga opens you up spiritually and is certainly physical. The idea is growing on me! I would probably have to pretty sure I was interested in a guy before I got into my tight-fitting yoga outfit but now we’re back to the body image problem.
Dating can be such a challenge. Where to go, what to do, how do I get to know this person and let them get to know me? How do I stay authentic? How do I get the hell out if I am bored, don’t like him or am not attracted to him at all?
Personally, I really dislike the process of dating, wait, I was being a polite. I hate the process of dating. We go to a movie, seems innocent enough, and I realize he likes to sit on the back row when I like to sit towards the front, I want to have dinner before the movie, he likes to eat late, after the movie. Then there is the moment when I know I am not interested and I have to tell him. I hate to hurt people’s feelings so even though I know I must tell him, I hate it. I might be over valuing myself here, he may have felt the same about me and I just beat him to the punch. Either way, I hate it.
Yoga is new and different at least. Maybe with that Zen feeling you get after yoga it would be easier to say, “I just don’t see this going anywhere.” On the other hand if the date was going well, the idea of being hot, sweaty, limber and connected with your spiritual nature is the very best place to be in order to authentically explore your connection to another person…and to have great sex! Sorry, I am Bella after all!
I’m game if you are! Let’s try Yoga dating!
In love with life,
Bella
Interesting idea, I like the idea of going on a first date that isn’t typical. Going to yoga is cool because that means you have a shared interest to start with. But I do have to say, I can’t picture my husband going to yoga class with me…
I am not a dating expert by any means, I’d more consider myself a serial monogamist. But I think if I was going on a first date, I’d suggest something like going out for coffee or ice cream maybe. A shorter date to feel things out? Can you spend half an hour together in Starbucks? Then maybe move forward to a dinner date. It seems practical to me. I also have a deep love for coffee! Maybe a drink after work? (After work avoids it turning into a sexual invite…)
And, I hate to say it, but it is 2009. If you are going to go on a date with someone you know little about, Google him/her. Likely you can find some information, maybe enough to decide if you want to follow through? But do not, do not, Facebook friend them or similar. That will creep them out.
Good luck daters!
Great post Bella, and thanks for the shout-out!